God's chastens us because He loves us

My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: for whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. Even as a father the son in whom he delighteth. He maketh sore, and bindeth up: he woundeth, and his hands make whole. Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time. I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction.

He doth not afflict willingly nor grieve the children of men. He hath not dealt with us after our sins; nor rewarded us according to our iniquities. For as the heaven is high above the earth, so great is his mercy toward them that fear him. As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us. Like as a father pitieth his children, so the Lord pitieth them that fear him. For he knoweth our frame; he remembereth that we are dust.

Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest and repent.

Revelation 3:19; Hebrews 12:5-6; Proverbs 3:12; Job 5:18; 1 Peter 5:6; Isaiah 48:10; Lamentations 3:33; Psalm 103:10; Psalm 103:14
http://bibleresources.org/devotional June 30th 

Gifts for work of service

So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. Eph 4:11-13

We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully. Rom 12:6-8

There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work. Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good. To one there is given through the Spirit a message of wisdom, to another a message of knowledge by means of the same Spirit, to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by that one Spirit, to another miraculous powers, to another prophecy, to another distinguishing between spirits, to another speaking in different kinds of tongues, and to still another the interpretation of tongues. All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he distributes them to each one, just as he determines. 1 Cor 12:4-11

Reconciliation

Hatred stirs up conflicts, but love covers all offenses.
Proverbs 10:12

"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:26-27

"Therefore if you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering.
Matthew 5:23-24

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” John 13:34-35

This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you.
John 15:12

"For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. "But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions.
Matthew 6:15

Pride leads to conflict; those who take advice are wise.
Proverbs 13:10

Above all, continue to love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.
1 Peter 4:8